Just a reminder, this
self-love revolution came from Marin Bach-Antonson, who you can learn more
about here.
This beautiful woman came to me through Kim Salter who facilitates the
Nashville Sister Circle I talked about last week. A lot of this is copied
directly from Marin's emails, so I'm not going to take any credit for it other
than sharing it with you and adding my little comments here and there about my
own experience!
This
week, we are being radical about practicing self-love and part of that is
learning how to Talk Ourselves Happy. Today, anytime you notice you are judging
yourself, berating yourself, pushing yourself or putting yourself down, I want
to suggest that you stop that habitual thought whenever you can by saying, “NOPE! Not this week. I'm choosing to love myself.” Then, take a deep breath to change your
physiology and tap your heart point (where you'd put a hand for the pledge of
allegiance) 3 x. This will interrupt the
negativity with ninja effectiveness and even begin imprint the new thought
pattern! Do this as many times today as
you can.
Today's Invitation: A
Self-Love Truth Telling Ritual
Part of loving ourselves
is not just about feeling amazing about who we are. It's also the ability to be vulnerable with
ourselves. We're not perfect. Self-love
is the ability to embrace our fears, soften around our mistakes and be gentle
with the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate. The last thing we want to do this week is get
so "self-lovie" that the inadequate parts feel even more abandoned.
So the invite today is
to sit with a tender heart and give yourself about 10 minutes to do this Self-Love
Ritual.
A Self-Love Truth
Telling Ritual
(You'll need: Pen,
paper, a mirror and a candle)
Start by lighting a
candle to honor the light within YOU. Spend
a few moments to "presence" yourself.
Let go of your day. Bring
yourself into the moment. Open your heart. Once you can feel yourself fully
present, you’re ready to get started.
If you were to tell some
vulnerable truths to yourself what would you say?
Use pen and paper to
finish this sentence and fill a whole page:
The Truth is:
(ex) I am scared of failing
I often feel like people
don't get me
I'm not comfortable
letting people see me without makeup
etc....
Give yourself some quiet
sacred, space to get soft with yourself.
When you are finished
with your list, read it aloud to yourself and insert "It's OK" at the
beginning of each sentence. For example,
"It's ok that I'm scared of failing,"
When you are done
reading your list aloud, get out your mirror (or go to one) and look yourself
deep in the eyes. REALLY look at yourself
with eyes of love and softness and say this:
"I love and accept
you exactly as you are right now"
At first the ego will
boom back: "What a joke, look at
your skin, ugh, etc.... " Allow
it. Love it. Be ok with it. Your ego is just trying to
protect you in the best way it knows how.
Stay there in front of the mirror for at least 2 minutes. (You might even set a timer on your phone.) Hold your gaze like you would a loved one. Love yourself. Be as tender as you can. Say your affirmation a few more times.
Go back to your candle-
Bless yourself with the light of the flame as if you could paint a bubble of
warm angelic light all around you. Smile
to signal that you have received this self-blessing. Say a few names aloud to whom you also want
to send this blessing to and imagine that you CAN send "self-love"
light to anywhere in the world. For
example, “I share this light with Amy, Greta and all women who suffer violence
and believe it's their fault.”
Close your ritual by
placing a hand on your heart and thanking yourself for time well spent with
YOU.
All in all, this will
literally take about 15 minutes. Please
give yourself this gift.
Ritual is powerful
because it is the language of the psyche.
The subconscious responds to imagery and symbolic action. You are literally re-patterning the
subconscious when you create this experience for yourself.
Today's Resource: The Power of Vulnerability
Each day Marin also
shared a gift with us; a resource, a poem, etc.
I’m going to pass those along to you, too. Today, it's Brene Brown at TED talks speaking
about vulnerability.
If you haven't seen it-
it's truly a must, must, must!!!!
If you HAVE seen it, I
want to invite you to drink it in with new "self-love" eyes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?viCvmsMzlF7o
True vulnerability is
the core of self-love.
Don't forget to post 3
things you love about yourself today and try to get your FB friends to do the
same. Women tend to find intimacy in
complaining to each other about everything that is shitty about life. My cranky kids, my lazy husband, my fat
ass. OMG...my ass is so fat too and believe
me my husband is even lazier than yours.....etc. etc.
Imagine if we could
change this and birth a new model where women could find intimacy in sharing
the most beautiful things they love about themselves.
We're changing the world
one post at a time!
Thank you for being part
of this with me and thank you for loving yourself!
Much love,
Marin and Emily Rose
Check out Marin's website here: https://www.facebook.com/Riseupgoddess
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